I don’t know how other people respond to change, but I know everyone’s reaction to it is generally different. Oh sure, you can divide people into two different camps if you like: Those who embrace change and those who run and hide from it.
Me? I’m somewhere in the middle, which points to the folly of trying to put people into neat and tidy categories in the first place. I will say I’m not always a big fan of change. I’m generally a black-and-white thinker, so where there is change I need to understand why it’s happening. And if I’m being perfectly honest, I need to agree with the changes taking place in order to be okay. That, of course, does not always happen.
Regardless, sometimes change happens whether I like it or not and whether or not it is right and correct. It’s a fact of life. So, I’ve taken a look at how I handle change and realize something about myself: When change happens I go back to the “safe” things. Those are the things which bring me comfort and keep me grounded. We all have these “comfort zones,” if you will.
Mine, I realized over the weekend, center first around my family. When change is swirling all around me I tend to spend as much time as I can around my home base and with my wife and son. These are the people I know I can trust no matter what and who are the constants in my life. Dinner with the wife and dirt bike riding with the son remind me that, no matter what is happening outside the home I will always have them.
I also realized this weekend that there are other things that bring me comfort, simple things. When I’m stressed over change I will turn on a Simpsons marathon or a football game on television and find my happy place. I need these simple but happy reminders that there are non-stressors in my life. I have a friend who makes his way to the golf course whenever he’s feeling stressed out. We all have our center points on the map to happiness and comfort.
Sometimes the daily grind just gets the best of us and we have to find that happy place to take our minds off everything else. I was reminded of all this over the weekend. Stress has been my constant dance partner over the past few weeks and the implications of all that hit me as I sat down in front of the TV for the first time in a while to just veg out. I needed my brain to stop firing off at a million miles an hour and to just… be. My wife strongly endorsed this action.
The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus of Ephesus put forth the idea that change is central to the universe and who said: “The only thing that is constant is change. Everything changes and nothing stands still…and…you cannot step twice into the same river.”
Embrace change or not, one way or the other it will happen.
Rodney Williams is the managing editor for The Anna-Melissa Tribune, Van Alstyne Leader and Prosper Press. He can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org, email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow along on Twitter with Rodney Williams@GateHouseWeekly.